I'm 40 and married with young kids. Very very happy in my life but really really want physical male contact but the guilt kills me. But I can't stop thinking about it which make me feel like a bad person. What can I do?
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Hey James76....unfortunately for some of us this is a reality, and from my experience the desires don't go away - no matter how hard you try. I was in your shoes...my kids were 10/10/6 - but I couldn't stand the guilt any longer. I came out to my wife and started the journey to authenticity. Not having that guilt on your shoulders is one of the biggest reliefs...but I won't lie - the first couple of years were very difficult. Now 6 years later, I have a good relationship with my ex-wife and the kids and my friends are all aware. We do some family things together which I really enjoy but I can do it all without the guilt. On some level I think my kids are more rounded for the exposure. If I could give advice I would say "face it" don't hide from it. Save yourself years of pain.
Stu's comments remind me of a friend of mine who is married and who also has sex with a man. He is beset with guilt as a result, and I am wondering how best I can counsel him on this important matter. I have told him about this Website.