Am i kidding myself...married 15 years with kids.
Problem is that I am chatting to guys (have been for over 20 yrs) and have had encounters with a guy befover bore I was married. I love my wife but the relationship involves very little sex.

Hey ozmark,
If you’re kidding yourself then I am too. Married nearly 10 years with young kids that I love dearly. Only started chatting to other guys over a year ago and has sparked a bit of a spiral into the unknown.
What makes it worse is that i know I’m very lucky to have the family I have but the pull to be with another guy is getting stronger. I have had some experiences recently and very much enjoyed it.
So what does that say other than that I’m a hot mess?!

I am in the same boat. Married more than 20 years, 3 kids. My preference is men. Feel really stuck. Don't want to hurt anyone but i feel i am a fraud and i am going to go nuts.

Totally get it Jiam. It’s the fraud part that hits the hardest. Almost like you’re not deserving of the family and good things you have. I’m coming to the realisation though that it’s not going to get easier over time.

Hey fellas - yup, same boat here. Married with 3 kids. Have been sexually attracted to men all my life. I love my wife and kids and to be honest, I don’t have any plans of packing my bags. I often dream about what life would look like with a male partner, but this is the life I have chosen.

I have been with guys and loved the experience. I am trying my best to be faithful now and rely on porn to meet my sexual needs - but it’s bloody hard. I love being with a guy. It’s amazing.

It would be great to have a circle of mates to chat with and form friendships. The journey is lonely... friendships with like minded fellas would be great.

Me too! Same story here, married, 3 kids, always fancied guys but held back. Finally took the plunge mid last year and realised I'm "mostly" gay. I love my wife and we still get on very well. I've told her and she's accepting - now life continues as normal except we have have an agreement for an open relationship and we both meet up with guys a few times a month to have no-strings sex. Its an arrangement that has been working really well for us and I recommend if you have an open-minded spouse.