My partner and I used to be intimate like 5 days a week in the first 6 months of our relationship but now it’s once a month if lucky he blames it on lack of confidence and self esteem or being tired etc
When we do have sex he always closes his eyes
And lights off
And not in our bed he would prefer to do it in the spare room on the couch
In his last relationship he was the bottom for 4.5years but he is a top when we do have sex he always tops except for 3 times in our whole relationship cause he hates to bottom , they also used to have 3wsys every week and I’m
Not open to that
Am I overthinking the whole situation or should I be worried
He told me last year he has never met someone who can’t match his sex drive but then he met me and he said I had a similar sex drive
I am worried because at the start of our relationship very early days he slept with his abusive manipulative ex who was controlling him and he hates me bringing that up I’m scared that he isn’t attracted to me anymore but I trust him when he says he hasn’t cheated on me since am I a complete idiot