Hi all. Married 25 years 3 wonderful kids and am sure I’m gay. Maybe I was bisexual before not really sure. But I know now that I love being with men. This realization only solidified in Dec 2019. Now I’m thinking of coming out and possibly divorcing. But am very stressed over it and how it will affect my wife and kids. I need advise.

I’m in a similar situation. Married 25 yrs, 3 kids never really realizing in my younger years that I could be gay/bi. But always felt different. About 12 years ago I started watching gay porn, then just last year discovered Gay hook up sites. I couldn’t believe that guys found me attractive, was great for my self confidence and I just love been with guys, even just chatting lol. I have come to the conclusion I’m gay only since December. And I want to come out but am scared. My plan is to do it before 2020. Any advice I welcome.

I've been married for 27 years. I never accepted it when I was younger. But the gay feelings never go away. Over the past few years, it's become overwhelming.

I'm in the same situation as well. I LOVE being with men. It's just no comparison to opposite gender sex. I have no doubts anymore. I'm gay. I plan on coming out hopefully sooner than later. And I have the same concerns as you do. I'm not sure how things will go, but I know for a fact that I need to do this. I'm getting too old to maintain this lie I've been living.

I'm in a similar situation. I've been married for 20 years and have only recently taken the plunge and started having sex with men. I'm now sure I'm gay.

It's great to know for sure. It's been so long for me. But the urges and the memories just get stronger. I'm going to take that plunge soon as well.

And I'm sure I'm gay